Re: “Study finds ‘suboptimal’ results” (letter, 4-9).
Mark Twain once wrote, “There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies and statistics.”
The study of gay parents and the children they raise does not reflect the circumstances of those children or the love of the family they are raised in. Many gay and lesbian couples adopt children with pre-existing issues or with disabilities inherited from their parents which led to them being put up for adoption in the first place.
To judge the parenting of these couples without acknowledging the issues inherent in the child’s background is not only unfair but borders on acrimony and judgmentalism.
I have grown weary of the idea of homosexuality as a choice (party affiliation is a choice, religion is a choice, but we vehemently defend these). No one decided to be gay, any more than they decided to be right-handed or blue-eyed.
Let’s move on and allow that gays and lesbians will live their lives and that their children will grow up happy or unhappy for the same reasons the rest of us did.