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SPEECH: We adults should set an example

Letter by Jim Joy, University Place on March 20, 2012 at 10:53 am with 14 Comments »
March 20, 2012 12:51 pm

Re: “Just because we’re in the barnyard, we don’t have to roll with the pigs” (Kathleen Parker column, 3-18).

Hooray for Kathleen Parker! Her timely comments about the thoroughly repugnant language used recently by radio and TV commentators needed saying. Why is it that any American would find the degradation of a woman enlightening or funny, whether or not it is said in a political context? This is not a Third World country we live in.

Too many adults seem to forget the “setting the example” part of being an adult. I spent 28 years in the Army, and I am not shocked by expletives heard on the battlefield, in the barracks or from too much booze in the local bar, although I still cringe at it at times.

But our kids already hear far too much “piggish” language on the street, on TV or even in today’s music. Why can’t we adults set a higher example? Why can’t we demonstrate the intelligence to express ourselves without resorting to the four-letter word? Why can’t we just talk nice?

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  1. “Why is it that any American would find the degradation of a woman enlightening or funny, whether or not it is said in a political context?”

    Why indeed. Democrats pretend great respect for women but excuse the crudest of references to their feminine parts. If that doesn’t prove disrespect for femininity in general, I don’t know what would. At least Limbaugh used terms refering to role, not anatomy, while Maher used offensive terms for female parts. Few women are prostitutes, but all have the same anatomy. Its past time to stop the hypocrisy.

  2. menopaws says:

    Excuse me—when did this man’s letter become about Republicans and Democrats????……..His point is that we are becoming a rude, crude, ignorant culture and it should stop. That we are setting a bad example for our kids. He is right and why poison the well with more of the same tired old political arguments. Kathleen Parker, I might add, is a conservative columnist, and she spoke the truth. Conservative or liberal–many of us are just fed up with the ugly language.

  3. Your are excused. I made it about Reps and Dems because of all the phony rationalization of Bill Maher’s comments. Rush apologized. Maher didn’t and won’t.

  4. Vox_clamantis_in_deserto says:

    Gotta’ go with meno on this one. And if you doubt her, just take your kids to a popular restaurant and listen to the foul language used in the course of many conversations around you… or better yet, go anywhere with my brother-in-law (and yes, he’s a conservative).

  5. velmak – an insincere apology is worse than none at all.

  6. bB, are you a mind reader among your other dubious distinctions?

    Here again we have the invidious comparison between Rush and Maher. Rush apologized but he was insincere, hence not as good as Maher. I think I’m gonna puke.

  7. LornaDoone says:

    Maher – “I’m a potty mouth”

  8. LornaDoone says:

    “At least Limbaugh used terms refering to role, not anatomy”


    A woman that addresses a congressional committee is a “slut”?

    A women should send in video tape of sex acts? “Role”?

  9. Obviously, very few women deserve to be called sluts. Just as obviously, all women have distinctive anatomy. Maher, in his refernce to anatomy, demeaned all women. Rush demeaned a subset of all women. Neither is acceptable. Don’t demean yourself by defending Maher.

  10. Theefrinker says:

    Rather than refraining from using these words, demonstrating how to use them appropriately would be more constructive. People always like to say stuff like “Bill Cosby didn’t need to swear, and he was still funny.” Jerry Seinfeld would be another example. But this is not the rule. “Dirty” words serve a great purpose, and are often times the difference between something being funny or not funny. Try watching the edited-for-TV version of Superbad, for example.
    P.S. sorry for trying to bring this back on-topic.

  11. BlaineCGarver says:

    Let’s not make this about Mr. Limbaugh, and the Slut…. I know and use every bad word, and might have made some of them up…but, I would like to think I would know my audience and not offend those I do not know, or known to not appreciate foul language. Those that claim to be able to assign a Political Label to raunch are full of it.

  12. lylelaws says:


    Great letter. It is refreshing to read someone making honest, logical comments about our lack of decorum without trying to place the blame on a particular political party.

    Thanks, Jim.

  13. menopaws says:

    Amen!!! Great job and skip the hacking over who is right and who is wrong—-you are right!!!!!!!

  14. DornaLoone:
    “Maher – “I’m a potty mouth”

    The rest of the quote by Maher: “I’m a pottymouth, not a misogynist.”

    Bill (not a misogynist?) Maher on “making women nod”

    The grand pooh-bah of sexist and inflammatory misogyny is without a doubt Bill Maher. “Hillary Clinton’s C#@!”

    Michelle Bachmann and Rick Santorum, were the victims of explicit sex rage fantasy insults by Bill Maher’s July 14 guests, comedian Marc Maron and gay rights activist, Dan Savage.
    “I hope he f@*%$ her angrily, because that’s how I would. And I’ve thought about it.”

    In 2011, Obama mega donor Bill Maher called Sarah Palin a “c*#!”.

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