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BULLIES: Adults need to stand up for children

Letter by Rhonda L. Ruff, Tacoma on Oct. 20, 2010 at 2:43 pm with 1 Comment »
October 20, 2010 5:01 pm

Lately there’s been a lot of talk about bullies and the horrific terror that they bring to their victims. Although these “intimidators” have always been around, the focus these days seems to be how the parents aren’t putting up with it anymore. From the “Mad Dad” on the school bus, to the recent commentary from Karen Irwin, I feel it’s imperative to acknowledge and validate how helpless you can feel when you know that your child is being harassed.

What’s sad is that it only takes that one person in that one situation to ruin a perfectly good school year. This is not fair and should not be tolerated.

This is where we as the adults need to put our foot down, and not by yelling or screaming or violence, but by living example. We can teach our children that we might not get along with everyone, and we certainly are not going to like everyone we meet, but we do have to respect each other.

I am fortunate to be employed for the Steilacoom School District, and we work very hard at discouraging bullying-starting from elementary on up. We encourage the children to build peace at home, at school, and in the community every day. Realistically this might not always happen, but it’s worth a start and it’s worth it to start right now.

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  1. bankerlady says:


    I will admit that I was one of those parents that thought bullying was a part of childhood and that my son just needed to get a tougher skin and deal with it. That was right up until my son, who is 7, became an angry and unmanagable child overnight because of the relentless bullying from another child at his elementary school.

    I was wrong, and I will admit it. I am now taking this VERY seriously! When the bullying started we tried to teach our son (in words and in deeds) to walk away, to tell a grown up, or to just ignore it. I now understand that it isn’t always possible. I am meeting with my son’s school today to discuss the issue, and I will keep in mind your letter and remember to keep my emotions under control and just address the situation as what it is – a problem that needs to be solved.

    Thank you for speaking up to inform and educate people who may not have known any better. This is a serious issue and needs to be treated as such.

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